• Lime Buzz (fae/she)@beehaw.org
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    27 days ago

    who lived together…

    so what you’re saying is they were room mates?

    [Sincere] As relationship anarchists though, even though we understand the homophobia of calling obvious lovers friends we don’t entirely hate it. Labels are, after all, just labels. What people agree to and what actions etc they choose to agree to is up to them.

    For example one of our partners and us call each other both friends and partners, so the agreements and what we’re okay with are more important than the label, at least to us.

    • Lyra_Lycan@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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      27 days ago

      Same! There’s also the reality that, as more of us divert from Christian normalcy, these guys could literally just be friends. Intimacy is a beautiful, comfortable thing, and it shouldn’t necessarily be restricted to the lover/s if the urge to snuggle and kiss is there.

      There is the factor of feeling like you’re not enough for the person, feeling insignificant, but sometimes the other person feels they need something different, and that’s okay. It doesn’t mean you’re any less important to them.

      Love and passion is wonderful and shouldn’t be suppressed!*

      *with the obvious exceptions involving mental trauma - huge maturity gap, under 18/over 20, close blood relation etc.