

I’m ace. Kissing and some cuddling makes me very uncomfortable, because it often leads to sex. There have been times that I thought I was sharing a sweet kiss with someone and suddenly they’re trying to slide hands under my clothes. So in my mind that was a romantic kiss, but to the other person it was sexual. This is why it’s so important for people like me to fully discuss things before we start dating someone.
There are different types of ace, you’ll see some aces say they are sex-favorable. That means they don’t feel sexually attracted to anyone, but they will engage in sex. On the opposite side of the spectrum is sex-repulsed. That’s me, I feel absolutely disgusted by sex.
My view is that there are shades of gray between kissing family and kissing with the intent to have sex. To me there is distinction between a kiss shared during a date and one that is shared as you’re stumbling towards a bed with a partner. One is an “I love you” kiss (romantic) and the other is “let’s fuck now” (sexual).