

If this has been going on since your teens, it sounds like bipolar disorder. With the help of psychiatric prescriber, trying a course of lithium can be diagnostic; differentiating Bipolar and ADHD. Get a second opinion. Mixed, rapid cycle and atypical symptoms are hard for clinicians without lots of practical experience to discern from comorid conditions or differential diagnosis like ADAD.
Bipolar disorder can profoundly be affected by menstrual cycle, and/or hormonal birth control.
Most insurance plans don’t cover mental health beyond trivial interactions for a trivial period of time. Most metal healh professionals don’t accept insurance because they can’t afford to. After a decade between school and “volunteering”, insurance companies offer a wage that could easily be made with far less stress, responsibility, and accountability. Earnings can be “clawed back” by an insurane company at any time.
Most insurance companies don’t provide out of network benefits, because they can make more profit by exploiting customers and labor. Often pitting them against each other to avoid any responsibility.
MHPAEA is a fucking joke. For profit healthcare should be illegal.