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Cake day: June 20th, 2023

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  • One of the risks around monetizing hobbies is that while you may enjoy that hobby now, doing it to make more adds level of stress and responsibility that can quickly make it into another job that you no longer love. Places like Etsy are competitive and reward consistency in listing and sales, so to have any real success you can’t really list just one or two items and wait for them to sell. You’ll drop far down in search rankings and suddenly your store dies because Etsy stops sending people to it.

    This isn’t to say don’t try, but be aware it isn’t as easy as “hobby but get paid for it”.







  • I’m curious how everyone documents their core/critical configs to allow the non-technical in our homes work with it if needed. For instance if I’m on work travel and the Pi-hole goes down for whatever reason my wife wouldn’t be able to use pretty much anything online. I can remote in and fix it but that could be hours/a day or two later. Same then for the proxmox stack that everything runs on.

    Along the same lines, how are folks documenting for EOL? It may not be a happy thought but we are all going to go someday, so what is your plan and how have you ensured loved ones can access/save important data?


  • It’s worth remembering the full elimination dieting doesn’t work for almost anyone because of exactly this. Sure ADHD makes it harder/different, but everyone has a dopamine dependency and food is a huge part of that.

    Dieting is mostly mental, and about all of your habits around eating. Look at things like overall portion sizes, and trucking your brain into realizing you’ve had enough. It’s okay to have some chips, but put them in a small bowl and then put the bag away. Eat dinner on smaller snack plates and not full dinner plates so it looks like you have way more food available. Eat slower, and don’t eat while doing other things like watching TV or reading as that distracts you from the signals your stomach gives that your full. And give yourself a reward sometimes, it’s important to enjoy life and food is part of that. Finally, is your dieting strategy sustainable long term (like “the rest of your life” long term)? If you cut out chocolate you may lose the weight you want, but if you go back to eating it again in a year, or two, or three you’ll likely gain much of it back.

    You 100% can do it, but be sure to set yourself up for long term success! You’re not just trying to lose weight/be healthier, you’re working on lifelong habits to be happier as well.


  • This isn’t really that uncommon, some airlines do similar (American I believe gave me this option on my last flight) and a lot of hotels and cruise lines do it. You are essentially bidding on available upgrades. The email wording is pretty tone deaf and the labels on that graphic are not the best (it’s trying to show if your bid has a high chance of winning an upgrade or not) but on the whole it’s a decent system to fill unused upgraded seats/rooms and in theory opens up lower seats for folks to use that otherwise wouldn’t be able to afford them.


  • I take it you don’t know much of what the federal government actually does or how many of those things benefit you both directly and indirectly.

    I won’t argue that the federal government is anywhere close to as efficient as it could be, or that there aren’t bad/lazy workers. But to just make a sweeping generalization shows real ignorance to why so much of these services are truly critical to why the US has been a world power, with a secure, comfortable populace compared to what it will be if those services are cut.


  • Agree 100%. Most of the former Plex users turned Jellyfin users I have come across did so better Plex was broken in some way for them. For me it was the general lack of care in creating/maintaining a good Apple TV app. Over the past few years it’s just gotten buggier and buggier with a lot of complaints on the Plex forums where devs would essentially stop by to say they weren’t working on any fixes.

    Jellyfin doesn’t fix 100% of the issues, but at least there is active development on Swiftfin that showed a desire to fully support all devices.


  • Honestly, the majority of key points to talk about can be found online from respectable sources (for example, this article from Johns Hopkins, though there are many others). There is a better than even chance he has shady looked up the “Is this normal” stuff himself if he has normal internet access.

    From a social standpoint it’s going to be different for everyone, teenage years are hard and kids are often cruel. I’d advise to just be there for him on this front, but don’t be pushy. He is going to be moody, lash out sometimes, and act differently. That is all normal. He is going to want to push boundaries and get in trouble (rather do things that will get him in trouble, most folks don’t actually want to get in trouble). Give him safe room to explore who he is and to try new things without letting him fall down too hard.

    Lastly, you say there are no trusted male figures in your life, but that doesn’t have to be family. Good friends can also fill that space. I have to imagine there is some guy in your life that could have heart to heart, even just with you to then talk to your son. It’s worth trying to broaden your expectation of what a trusted male figure is perhaps.