While you’re right that it’s not an explicit ADHD thing, it is very much a symptom of it. How To ADHD made a video about motivation and points out some of the emotional aspects of it here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OM0Xv0eVGtY which can cause the problematic low self-esteem and people-pleasing behaviour. But there has been a lot of connections with ADHD and Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria which can further connect to the behaviours in the OP.
Another good Additude article was written from a question sent in, “How can I stop people-pleasing at work?”.
In short: Everyones ADHD affects everyone differently but this definitely has strong connections to ADHD.
Having run minor projects using PocketBase before and also seen what PocketBase itself can do and SQLite configured correctly in general, It’s great. I’ve gotten to be a big fan of it by the years and gladly opt for it over the bigger ones.
If this project got SQLite support it would be a great replacement for my own setup which requires about 3 or 4 accounts. Currently using a proprietary solution and been looking into moving to Authentik but it’s a bit too heavy resource wise for my current servers.