There are some fresh baked breads that I enjoy a few days after baking (basically sourdoughs) that are reheated to get warm and crispy again. But I agree. If I could have perfectly timed baked breads I would be so happy.

According to The Journal of Sex Research in 2017 :

Paraphilic sexual interests are defined as unusual or anomalous, but their actual occurrence in nonclinical samples is still unknown. This study looked at desire for and experience of paraphilic behaviors in a sample of adult men and women in the general population. A secondary goal was to compare the results of two survey modes—traditional landline telephone versus online. A total of 1,040 persons classified according to age, gender, education, ethnic background, religious beliefs, area of residency, and corresponding to the norm for the province of Quebec were interviewed. Nearly half of this sample expressed interest in at least one paraphilic category, and approximately one-third had had experience with such a practice at least once. Voyeurism, fetishism, frotteurism, and masochism interested both male and female respondents at levels above what is usually considered to be statistically unusual (15.9%). Interestingly, levels of interest in fetishism and masochism were not significantly different for men and women. Masochism was significantly linked with higher satisfaction with one’s own sexual life. As expected, the online mode generated more acknowledgment of paraphilic interest than the telephone mode. These results call into question the current definition of normal (normophilic) versus anomalous (paraphilic) sexual behaviors. (Emphasis mine)

I would say that nearly half would be common enough. Ignore a common desires just leads repression, shame and for people to seek out these desires in more dangerous locations and situations usually without consent. Those who are honest about what they want get to do this with willing partners in specifically time constrained way. This is not controlling anyone outside those situations or pretending that God says all women are submissive to men.

I would also like mention that most kink and BDSM books by professions and those in the scene will discourage the use of choking by anyone in all situations. They will go into exquisite details about to safely flog a man safe and then say how choking is dangerous and shouldn’t be done. So don’t say that BDSM is choking because that is generally frowned upon (although this is still debated).

Thinking about BDSM (Sadism and Machosism specifically) as violence is missing the point and thinking about it the wrong context. There a many different ritualized and formalized pain rituals that we practice as a society. Something like a marathon, cross fit, sitting for tattoos are other modern example where people voluntarily go through pain for a set period of time for fun and to see if they can do it. These are all acceptable hobbies where pain is a large portion of why people do it. Not to mention that multitude of religious rituals where someone goes through something difficult or painful in a specific context. Its the sex negativity in the cultural that says if someone may get an erection or wet thinking about this pain where we draw the line.

If you are interested in unlearning paternalistic relationship structures I would recommend you read / listen to Dan Savage. He does a weekly sex and relationship columns since the 1990 and a podcast since the early 2000s so he has been doing this a long time so has a great backlog of material most of which is free. Especially since you are young and want some outsider perspective.

He talks often about alternative sexualities (queer, kink, etc.) and relationships structures (polyamory, open relationships, female led relationships, etc.) which might not be applicable to you. I know you mentioned that you are NOT into BDSM but understanding how common and acceptable doing something like that it makes what you are asking into context. Its the same tools around consent and communication about needs regardless of what you are doing. Listening and understanding the extreme level sexual acts will put your asks into perspective. Also hearing about the variety of ways organize their relationships and sex lives will really deprogram you from the single view of gender and sexuality you were brought up in.

I know his older material is available for designs

That is correct. I think he typically releases the 3-D models after a few months. I know he has other 3-D Models on his website. This one I think will be later

There are sauna rafts that have engines, so you can cruise around the waters.

I went on one of those in Norway. We didn’t have enough people to book the private bay tour so we were just at the dock. We jumped off the roof into the ocean. It was amazing. Highly recommend if you ever get a chance

Once I purchased a house I had the same goal starting with my neighborhood. I started with the Seek app which allows you to take a picture of a plant and it will identify. I used it whenever I walk around my block and my house. Start with the ones you see the most. Start with plants since they are static and most common. Start with flowers since those are the most distinctive and easiest to identify via the app.

If you are really interested there are a few books that I found very interesting. First would be a foraging / herbalism book for your region. I can’t recommend what that is since I only know for the Upper Midwest in the USA. I found I could remember a plant best if I knew what it was for and could interact with it. (I.e. use it or eat it)

The second is Weeds: in defence of Nature’s Most Unloved Plants. If you live anywhere where other people live you will mostly see “weeds” the most human plant. The author is from England so it might not be about all your weeds but they are global travelers so you will see lots of overlap. It’s a fun long term project. Good luck

So in 2015 I made a career move from doing a lot of project management in a STEM field into Data Science. I had the math and statistics background but no coding experience which not necessary for the program. It was a program for working professionals with all classes in the evening or weekends so a similar program set up. For each course we went through a topic and then had an example programing language where we could apply this concept. So during this program I started with 0 programming languages known and ended up with like a dozen where I at least touched it. Most people had one or two programming languages that they used for their job which they relied on.

It was a difficult program since I had to learn all of this from scratch but it taught me how to learn a new programming language. How to google the correct terms, how to read documentation, how to learn a new syntax and how to think to write in code. This was the most valuable thing I learned from this program. For you focus on what you are learning and use the tools that assist with that. That means using ChatGPT to answer your questions, or pull up documentation for you or even to fix an error if you get stuck, (especially syntax errors since it can get frustrating to find that missing comma but its a valuable skill to practice). Anyone who is having their code full written by them are missing the learning how to learn.

For SQL its kind of struggle to learn because its an odd language. Struggle and you will learn the concepts you need. Using ChatGPT for everything will be a huge disservice for them since they won’t learn all the concepts if you jump ahead. Some of these more advanced functions are way more complex to troubleshoot and won’t work on certain flavors of SQL. Struggle and learn and you will do great

Trump condemns Vance Boelters Incomplete Hit List

Rent the Skill for sure. If this is the skill you are expected to be an expert or at least experienced you would avoid it as much as possible to avoid being dependent.

I don’t use Signal (gasp I know). But this is a great workaround.

My favorite way to share files is to compose an email and attach the file. I then save it as a draft and then go to another computer and open that draft and download the file. Its the best method and it has worked for at least a decade. Sometimes you have to send it to yourself but the method is perfect

I had to a video taped “interview” almost a decade ago where I had to dress up and then verbally answer questions which I didn’t know ahead of time. It was awful and one of the most degrading things I have ever done. The best thing was I had a survey afterwards about how the experience went. I gave it all the lowest score and wrote that I no longer want to work on a company that would put me through this.

It is going to be even worse with an AI Interviewer. What is the point of that? What are they going to learn that is different from a resume or written summary? This is the most dystopian thing I have seen in a long time.

Relevant XKCD

Different kind of crypto nerd but still

Congrats Pope Bob!!!

I loved my EEEPC. I used while study abroad before smartphones were common. It was great to carry on me at all times. If I needed directions or to check on a website I would sit at a café / restaurant / bar to have a coffee / wine / beer to grab the wifi. It was great and small enough that I could carry it open if needed. I loved it. I thought it was the future until the iPad took over

What they used to saying in the gay marriage rights movement was the rights of marriage don’t kick in the good times but in the bad. It’s all the sickness and death and divorce when it’s needed.

Its such a big day they made a pretty okay Kevin Costner movie about it

I know there are certain legal situations where an official marriage changes who has certain rights, but aren’t those same rights available if you make other legally-official decisions E.G. a will or trusts, etc?

This is not the case. Marriage gives you a lot of specific rights that can be covered by other legal documents but never together and marriage will override it. This is one of the main goals for giving gay marriage is all of the legal benefits of marriage which are expansive and complete. (This is of course in the USA this is not the case in other locations.)

There was a few legal pushes to separate these legal benefits from marriage into different legal rights that can be granted piecemeal. If you are intersted I would read The Other Significant Others which talks about people who prioritize friendships over marriage and how they interact with their “other significant other” which includes the legal discussions.

I have blocked a few communities which I have really enjoyed. I think there is definitely a different but freeing experience to be in charge of curating your experience instead of algorithms doing it for you. It’s more work but the freedom is nice but making the constant choice feels hard.