I’m currently where you were a year ago. This gave me hope - thanks for sharing. Keep up the good work man, that shit has got to be hard.

Difference of practice vs insanity is directly related to something within your control vs outside of your control.

My dad was 47 and my mom was 32 when they had me. Although he was a fantastic dad, my dad didnt have the same energy as all of my friends’ dads, and that was always obvious. He really only was able to bike ride with us until I was maybe like 8 or 9.

My dad had some health complications when I was a teenager, and he died when he was 61 and I was 15. Really messed me up for awhile. Of course I miss him and wish he hadn’t gone when he did, but when I think about it, I realize that he’d be 78 if he was still been alive today. Not sure that I would be able to handle caring for my aging dad at 31, considering how overwhelmed I currently am with my life.

It’s certainly doable, but I don’t think its a great idea - especially if youre kinda indifferent about it and your husband is leaning no.

As someone who’s always struggled to find ambition, that’s wild to me.

Just gonna start out by saying I’m a woman.

I appreciate the premise of what you’re saying, but the unfortunate reality is that people often aren’t trust worthy and there are people that would lie about something as serious as SA.

Our justice system is broken in many ways, but I don’t think this is one of them. It makes sense that we should have to prove any claims we make against somebody else - especially if that claim can ruin their life.