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Cake day: July 6th, 2023

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  • A lot of people in here saying don’t do it because you might change your mind. They never seem to apply that logic the other direction. There’s lots of parents out there that had kids and only then realized they didn’t want the whole deal. And worse for them, society has driven a nauseating culture of parental worship and idolatry. It makes it impossible to come to grips with that realization. Parents are supposed to unconditionally love and champion their child and constantly profess how thankful they are and how gratifying the whole endeavor is. And that’s just with a “normal” child. If you have a kid with a disability or some kind of handicap that makes parenting exponentially harder you still need to profess your thankfulness! You aren’t allowed to not want to be a parent then. That ship has sailed. Anything less than abject subjugation to the identity of being a parent is condemned.











  • I feel the person you responded to worded that poorly. I think it’d be more apt to say you’re not obliged to approach someone you find unattractive, and I’d agree. If your goal is romantic or sexual in nature and attraction is a requirement for you, approaching someone you aren’t attracted to is a waste of time. The key point here though, is that shouldn’t change your approach. It should just narrow down who you approach. Especially for someone introverted, I don’t fault them for wanting to optimize their approach strategy given their limited social battery.



  • You should only “cold approach” people in a setting you would want to be cold approached by a random guy. And yes I mean you as a presumably hetero male being approached by another male for the same purpose. If you wouldn’t like it, assume others wouldn’t like it.

    If you were at some singles event, that’d likely be okay as that’s the purpose. If you’re at the gym for instance, I’d presume you wouldn’t like it.